They will have you gritting your teeth, stressing you out and they seem to know how to push your buttons. They offer you problems, not solutions and when being questioned, start the answer with phrases like ‘yeah, I know but…’ How to spot a Negative Nancy on your team? They have a negative outlook on life and sometimes have an extreme viewpoint. ![]() If you leave the situation unaddressed, Nancy’s negativity will in time rub off on the other team members. They affect the rest of the team as well. Negative Nancy doesn’t just have an impact on you. The mere thought of the Inspector talking to negative Nancy has filled you with dread, and you sigh and swallow that hard lump in your throat just by thinking about it! The Inspector will be able to spot them, pick them out, zoom in on them and ask them questions. Negative Nancy will affect your inspection I will guarantee it. When I refer to Negative Nancy or Debbie Downers, I merely describe that person in your setting that is difficult, negative, and generally sucks the life out of you and the team. Apologies in advance if your name is Nancy or Debbie, Claire, or Susan this blog is by no means about you, and the names used are just for alliteration purposes. How to deal with Negative Nancy or Debbie Downer is one of those topics that come up time and time again, especially when talking with Nursery Managers. Take back your power and focus your time and energy on becoming your best self.Īmy Morin is a psychotherapist and the author of 13 Things Mentally Strong People Don't Do, an Amazon top pick for business and leadership books in December.Four strategies to overcome your team’s Negative Nancy. Proactively schedule time with them on a regular basis. A quick lunch with a jovial colleague or a family gathering that’s guaranteed to be filled with laughter can help you stay on track.ĭecide that you're not going to allow negative people to determine how you think, feel, and behave. Identify the positive people in your life. Just like negative people can rub off on you, a positive person can brighten your spirit. Seek out positive people to keep you balanced. It’s difficult to look on the bright side when you’re surrounded by negativity. Commit to controlling your emotional reactivity and staying true to your values, despite your circumstances. When you act in a manner that isn’t consistent with your usual behavior, accept responsibility for it. Or, after being surrounded by negative co-workers for hours, an optimist may find herself convincing others that the company's future is doomed.Īlthough it can be tempting to say, “She makes me so mad,” blaming others for your conduct gives them more power. A normally calm, mild-mannered person may resort to yelling when he can’t take one more second of negativity. S ometimes certain pessimists seem to have the power to raise our blood pressure, for one reason or another. Negative people can bring out the worst in us if we're not careful. Make a conscious effort to reduce the amount of mental energy you expend on negative people. The more time you spend dreading, fretting, worrying, and rehashing, the less time you'll have to devote to more productive things. ![]() Pay attention to how your thoughts change when you're faced with negative people. ![]() Or, rather than think about how to improve your performance, you spend more time thinking about how upset you'll be if that unpleasant co-worker gets a promotion. Perhaps you're so distracted by your colleague's know-it-all attitude that you can't contribute productively to the meeting. Negative people often influence what we think about. ![]() Take a deep breath and decide that you're going to make it a great day, despite what others say or do. Create a mantra, such as, “I’m going to stay positive today despite the people around me,” and repeat it often to help you stay on track. Make a conscious effort to choose your attitude. But allowing a negative person to dictate your emotions gives them too much power in your life. Their pessimistic outlooks and gloomy attitude can decrease our motivation and change the way we feel. Spending time with negative people can be the fastest way to ruin a good mood.
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